Until you have kids, it is hard to understand the "mom-guilt" that comes with almost everything that doesn't revolve around your kids. I am definitely not the first, nor will I be the last, to have felt this way. What I have come to realize though, is that I am a much better mom when I take some time for myself to refresh and recharge!
After much deliberation with my husband, we decided that it was time for Kanaan to go to daycare. He needed more structure than I was giving him at home, and he also needd to be around kids. He LOVES to play and interact with people and I felt so bad that he didn't get that while staying at home with me. I am so thankful that I had the opportunity to stay at home with him for the first year and a half of his life, but it was time for this change.
To be honest though, it wasn't all for him; I needed a change, too! My time as a SAHM mom had run its course and I was ready to be a working woman again. Not something full-time, as I still want to be able to always be available if Kanaan needs me, but something part-time that is fun and gives me a reason to get dressed up and be productive.
So once he got into daycare, I got a job at Old Navy! They are super flexible with my hours and it is such a fun place to work. See all those selfies up there? I actually am getting dressed up and feeling pretty enough to take them! Y'all it has done wonders for my whole being. It feels GOOD to make some money, have fun, and be PRODUCTIVE! Not that raising a baby isn;t being productive, but I am not the type to clean all day and have a set schedule, so I found myself being way lazier than I needed to be! In saying that, I have come up with some ways to make time for mama now that our lives have changed a little.
- Get pretty! By this, I simply mean getting dressed up and put together everyday! It seriously does wonders for my self-esteem, and it will for yours, too!
- Find a hobby! Since I don't work all day, it is important for me to utilize the time I have to myself, and I like to do that by crafting and/or doing homework. When I utilize this time, then I can fully devote myself to Kanaan in the mornings and evening when he is not at daycare!
- Get my nails done! This could go in the get pretty bullet, but I will make it its own. Just getting my nails and toes painted is so relaxing, yet doesn't break the bank! I find it is a great time to sneak away and just have some me-time.
- Read! Reading is one of my all-time favorite things to do, and being a mom doesn't give me a lot of time to do that. So now I try to read before/after work and daycare!
How do you balance motherhood and time for you?! I would love more ideas!